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Jerry Myers's avatar

I have experience with this in my own life. 30 years ago I had a mental breakdown. I was diagnosed with chronic depression and PTSD. My mother, who was an RN directed me to a psychiatrist she knew well. I am glad I followed her advice.

This psychiatrist was old school and believed strongly in teaching his patients how to overcome rather than be held hostage to your disease. I have always been very independent. I would tell my mom as a small child that I could do it myself. She encouraged that attitude of mine. I always learned how to do things I wanted to do.

I was diagnosed with asthma when I was 8. Mom, who had asthma since she was born, told me I could not let asthma define what I could do. I learned to manage it while fully participating in sports. I ran cross country and cycled doing century rides (100 miles in 6 to 8 hours). In the summers I backpacked and the winter I cross-country skied.

When I had my mental breakdown, my attitude was this sucks and I have to get better. It was a lot of hard work and took time. I am still growing and learning today. I could not work when it happened. I had been working since I was in 4th grade with my first paper route.

Within 5 years, I earned my teaching credential and have worked as a high school biology teacher since. I had to learn to cope with the stress that comes with public school teaching. I took it as a challenge to figure out how to thrive and not let the stress cause me to burn out. I did and my students and the administrators tell me I am one of the most calm, and patient teacher. Why? I learned that the opinions of others do not define me. When parents and students are critical of a decision I made, I know it is on them, not me. I have very high standards and refuse to lower them for any reason. I expect students to behave appropriately and I do not waiver on grades. I do not give a pity D- when the student earned an F. I do not raise grades no matter the pressure placed on me.

I have worked with many teachers who are very liberal and suffer from mental health conditions. Their mental health has declined over the years because they believe it is due to factors they cannot control. They make poor decisions that make their issues worse.

When in an IEP meeting and I am told I need to lower my standards because the student cannot learn due to their disability, I let them know I know what their student is dealing with. I have moderate dyslexia. When I went to school, there was no special education and accommodations to make the academic work easier for me. My mom placed me in a study in the local University that was researching dyslexia. They taught me how to deal with it. I learned to use a ruler as an aid to not get lost when reading. I learned to double check all the math problems I did to catch times I inverted numbers. Math was difficult but I excelled at it because I put in the extra work. I did that because I was fascinated by science and needed to learn math skills to excel in science. My best subjects in school, including college was math and science. I went on to earn a Ph.D in Biology.

I make it clear, I will help the student learn and show them how, I will not lower the standards. I have helped many special education students achieve much more than they ever thought they could. I am so good at it that I am assigned more special education students than most teachers. I have such a reputation that many parents of special education students want their child assigned to me.

Even today, with medication, I still have depression. Most who know me would be surprised. I force myself to get out of bed every morning no matter how bad I feel. I will not miss work due to depression. I have a job to do. When I get in the classroom, I forget that I am depressed because I do my job to the best of my ability. I have high standards for myself. On weekends, I get out of bed at the same time and keep busy all day. Physical activity is a great cure for depression.

My psychiatrist taught me that I am in control of my life and my mental well being is mine to determine. I am in control of my life and it is my responsibility to make good decisions and I will suffer the consequences of poor decisions. I learn from my mistakes and strive to continue improving as a person.

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WheelHorseman's avatar

Good list, good explanation. I might add, somewhere in the list, the inevitable depression that results from engaging in magical thinking. Sort of like #5, when you abandon logic and rational planning to deal with the hard parts of getting a job done, and resort to; "well let's just try it. Everybody wants this to work so we'll get it done somehow." But it's not true- for example, you can't spend your way out of debt, no matter how many times you've responded that "it's not an expense, it's an investment!" If the budget doesn't balance, printing more money or opening up a new credit card is not a winning plan, and this fact drives the Left crazy. Look at their hysterical response to DOGE...

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