He’s Trans, But Regrets Transitioning Because of Something He Should Have Known All Along
The trans pipeline
If you follow accounts on X that cover trans issues, one of the running themes you will notice is how many trans people seem shocked by things most normies would just expect as a matter of course.
There are many examples of this.
For example, you will see lots of trans women who seem stunned that straight guys aren’t interested in them even though they think they pass. Yet, what would ever give anyone the idea that there was some kind of pent-up demand among STRAIGHT GUYS, of all people, for men in dresses? Along similar lines, there are so many stories like this floating around:
When they do these surgeries, do you know what they’re doing? Typically, they either INVERT THE PENIS TO MAKE A VAGINA or use PART OF THE COLON FOR IT. How does anybody hear that and go, “Oh, that sounds like something I want to do as an elective surgery. It seems almost sure to work out fine.”
Similarly, look at this eye-catching story and see if you can see the lack of foresight that led to disaster here:
In other words, what he really wanted was a wife, a house, and more kids, which he already had. However, he gave all that up to try for a wife, a house, and more kids while wearing dresses and calling himself a woman’s name. All of this was apparently supposed to help his “mental health,” but he describes himself as “lonely,” “sad,” and willing to endure a “mental health collapse” rather than having gone through with transitioning.
Let me just start with, what did a married man who had a wife and kids expect to happen when he announced he was going to “become a woman?” Did he think his wife would hang in there? Did he think job prospects would stay the same when he revealed himself to be a mentally ill guy wearing a dress instead of a family man? Did he think life would just continue on normally after dropping that bomb?
It’s also worth noting that I found the original thread on Reddit, even though it has been removed and locked:
It was interesting to see other men pretending to be women, noting that they had similarly awful experiences, but also saying that they had no doubts about it:
"I play this game a lot too. Not that I regret transitioning, but just grieving all the heartache that came as a result of it. The loss of societally conventional beauty/a conventional body. Loss of important family and friend relationships I can never get back. Having to redefine my sense of self, and feeling lost sometimes forging this path that can be so lonely and hard. I’m 7 years in. It’s gotten easier as the part of my life from “before” gets further in the rearview mirror. As I’ve realized that I can date successfully and that others are attracted to me. As I’ve become more confident in myself. Transitioning is such a gamble but also a huge investment in yourself, and it really does pay off if you give it TIME. Keep working for those things that make you feel most yourself. One day, I hope, all the hardship and loss won’t feel so acutely painful, because you’ll have gained other valuable things that never would’ve happened otherwise." -- kairotic-sky
"I'm also trans. I haven't transitioned to the point of HRT. But even transitioning enough to wear tank tops more than tees was enough to damage my relationship with my father, multiple family members beyond him, and my prospects for economic opportunity. All that being said, even being out of a job for a year and hearing the same from all my trans friends, I wouldn't go back. Regret is valid. Biting the bullet and admitting to yourself that you are trans, that you're different, and even that you need to do certain things or undergo certain treatments to alleviate dysfunction and dysphoria - those are all hard. But transitioning is harder than not transitioning, and if you didn't know your transness as a blunt, intuitive fact about yourself you probably wouldn't have done it. Knowing who you are and being true to it isn't always easy. But it's better for you and the people you love than hiding it and quietly resenting yourself and them. I'm glad you did what you felt was right. I'm sorry you regret it. It's easy to mourn what we could have had if we just buried our feelings for the rest of our lives - but it's hard to admit that no matter how we try, we can't escape who we are. You'll be able to live with yourself one day. Take care to live that long, and to be there for your daughter and teach her to care for herself too. Good luck, you're not alone." -- Dr_Petrakis
One of the things you don’t hear discussed enough is that there is a trans pipeline that leads some people to be heavily pressured to go in this direction almost from the get-go, without ever encouraging them to seriously stop and consider the consequences of what they’re doing.
For example, we can’t know exactly how this guy got here, but we could make some intelligent guesses.
It probably started with a porn or Hentai addiction that got him interested in being trans. He checked out some trans groups and forums, where pretty much every person encouraged him to be his “authentic self” and also told him that anyone who encouraged him to think twice was a terrible person. Any liberal friends he had would have felt enormous pressure to “affirm his gender.” Meanwhile, if he went to therapy, in a little less than half the country, therapists aren’t even legally allowed to deny him “gender affirming care” and tell him he may be making a big mistake:
Then, once someone transitions, it’s a little like joining a cult. All your old friends fall away, all your new friends have a script they’re only allowed to deviate from so much, and if you “detransition,” your new “friends” will all viciously attack, smear, and shun you.
Oh, but it’s all worth it because you’re being “true to yourself?” That’s all bullsh*t. Are people who are anorexic being true to themselves? Schizophrenics? What about delusional people who believe the FBI is listening in on their conversations via their fillings?
“No, this is totally different” – no, it’s not. It’s exactly the same except for the fact that there are a lot of incredibly irresponsible people encouraging confused people like this man to embrace their mental illness. The number of lives that have been ruined as a result of that and the number of people that have killed themselves because of it is staggering.
Just look at this guy. He was living his dream, yet he wadded it up and tossed it in the garbage over a mental illness. After all, he had the things he wanted, but he wanted to have those same things as woman. One big problem — he’s not a woman and will never be a woman. If someone said, “I want a wife, a family and a great job, but I also want to do all these things while being treated like a dog, because that’s what I am,” the mental illness and unrealism of that way to thinking would jump out at every person that talked with them. Yet, this is exact same thing and this guy may have spent months or years being waved on and encouraged to go for it.
No wonder he’s full of regret.
Those of us who are trying to tell people to slow down, think twice, and go in a different direction aren’t saying it because we hate trans people. We’re saying it because it’s clear to most of us outside of the trans pipeline that it’s a huge mistake. How do you look at the bad fruit this tree bears in the lives of such a high percentage of people that transition and conclude anything else?
Reality is, you cannot go through trans surgery and expect your body to now function the way you want it to. For "trans women" (I prefer the more accurate description of biological male) every single cell in your body contains an X and Y chromosome. Your genetic blueprint is male and your biochemistry will always work to that end. No matter how much female hormones you take, or hormone blockers you use, your cells have a male blueprint. Interfere with that and your body will suffer all sorts of issues because it is working against what you are trying to do.
No surgery will ever give you fully functioning parts of the opposite sex. It will just be a very cheap, non-functioning, imitation.
I do have some sympathy for those that say they are trans. 30 years ago, I believed I should have been born female. I had a lot of mental health issues stemming from childhood abuse trauma (physical and sexual abuse). When I hit rock bottom and sought s psychiatric care, I learned why I thought this way. It resulted from the trauma of the abuse.
Had I had a psychiatrist today, I know they would say you are trans and need to transition to feel better. The problem is, it does not take away the pain of the trauma. It is sold as the fix that makes it all better. It does not treat the root cause, the mental health issues. After you go through the transition, all of a sudden you realize you still have the same mental health issues as well as new ones caused by the so-called cure. You were sold a bill of goods and cannot go back. The surgery mutilated your body the same as if you had an arm or leg amputated. It will never grow back and you never will be the same. You have a new normal you have to become accustomed to.
My pshychatrist instead directed me to become comfortable in the body I had. I eventually become comfortable being male and realized and realized, that with everything in life, there are advantages and disadvantages. My wife told me that she liked the new me because she wanted a mate that was male and felt secure that I will do everything I can, including dying, to defend her and our son. She felt secure that she could count on me to do what I needed to do so she can feel secure in doing the things she likes.
An incident that happened 30 years ago put it all in perspective for me. We were camping at a lake we have visited often. Our son was 2 and we were at the lakeside enjoying the evening and sunset. Like most 2-year olds, our son was having a blast running around and investigating everything that caught his attention. There was a pair of geese that had several recent hatchlings. Our son was fascinated and we watched them for a while. As with toddlers, you turn your back for just a few seconds and in a blink of an eye, they are heading for problems. He decided to pet the geese and was moving towards them. The two adult geese came at our son fast and furiously. They were slightly taller than our son and were in full attack mode. Without thinking, I immediately took off for the geese. I was going to attack them with all I had. My wife ran to our son, picked him up, and then got out of there.
As I got within striking distance of the geese, they turned tail and was was pursuing them at full speed. They ended up in the lake and their fledglings headed for the water and they swam out of there.
My wife saw the whole thing and asked me what I would have done if I caught up to them. I said my only thought was doing whatever I needed to do to stop them, even if I had to break their necks.
She asked me if I was upset with her for taking off so fast and leaving me to deal with the geese. I said of course not. As soon as I saw you were getting our son out of harm's way, I felt relieved because I could now focus completely on the danger.
My wife and I were both biology majors in college and it did not take long for us to realize we acted based on biology. She was out to protect her child and I was out to protect my wife and son and wanted her to get away and not come back no matter how injured I became. I majored in genetics and evolutionary biology and there were strong biological reasons why we did what we did without thinking or communicating with each other. We just acted.
This happened a year after I started seeing my psychiatrist and made me realize that I was definitely male and responded as such in a moment of panic.
Several years later, we were both teaching at the same high school. They hired a female teacher to teach theater arts. When we first saw her, we both said, that is not a woman. The teacher was putting lipstick on a pig and claiming to be very attractive.
Of course this teacher became an activist. All the plays had far-left themes. Students dropped out of her classes and stopped taking theater arts classes. Attendance at school plays plummeted. He complained that it was all due to trans-phobia. I had it with his rants one day and said trans-phobia had nothing to do with it. He took a fun elective class and politicized it to the point that students hated the class and the indoctrination. Some parents made sure their children would not take the class because the teacher did not teach, the teacher constantly told them their parents are oppressing them and keeping them down. For kids who have a great relationship with their parents, they know this is a lie. I taught a science elective, marine biology, and I made it fun, enjoyable with lots of lab activities. I grew it from 2 classes to 5. Students had to work to pass, but did not mind because I did things that interested them.
The teacher also went off the rails because the other female teachers made it clear, he was not welcomed in the women's restroom. He tried to file a sex harassment claim but lost because the judge said he could not force any person to use the restroom at the same time as he did. They always had a lookout and if he was heading towards the restroom, all the women would leave and go to a different one. I do not blame them. No matter how hard he pretended to be a woman, he always acted like a man
I also had a few discussions with him of what I would do him off campus if he ever tried to enter the restroom with my wife or any of my female co-workers. Several other male teachers did the same. He finally would only use the restroom in the office because it was a one toilet affair and he could pretend he was a woman even if he stood to pee.
He eventually left for a job at a rural high school with a large population of farm kids. He left after a couple of months because they made it clear, they would not put up with his fantasy.
People who take the route of medical mutilation, either by drugs or surgery or both are mentally ill, they are narcissists, in desperate need of attention and if these brutal and sadistic procedures weren't available, given time they would discover they are garden variety homosexuals. For some of them, that's just too mundane, though. Young children who are thrust into this nightmare are being abused by their parents and the entire industry that pushes this insanity, and they need to be arrested and jailed.