Some conversations stick with you, and I still think about one I had with a roughly 60-year-old cab driver in Miami. We were chatting during a long drive, and I mentioned how hot some of the Cuban women in Miami were. This got him ranting about his marriage and his son. Clearly, he loved his son and his wife, but he was telling me that he resented being tied down to one woman and was upset about all the money he had spent on his son over the years. Sure, some people would criticize the guy for that, but there’s probably a little sliver of it in all people.
Ah yes, the most profound and ubiquitous gender difference that we fail to acknowledge because it is inconvenient to the ultimate goals of 3rd wave feminism. She has a thick emotional rind that has to be pierced to access the rational thinking apparatus. He has a thinner emotional rind that is more easily pierced so he can proceed effectively with problem-solving.
Her’s is a human relationship space. His is a pragmatic get things done space.
She speaks without real interest in solving any pragmatic problem, but to calm her high emotional turmoil. That is HER problem. He is not naturally tuned to that sort of thing… he can see her emotional turmoil but his pragmatic problem solving mode kicks in and in causes friction and resentment in her because “he does not listen”, “he does not understand”, “he isn’t sensitive enough”.
Now, if he goes overboard in his reflection of her emotions, she loses respect for him.
Women are complex. Men are much more simple.
However, the key for men is to learn how to do active listening while tamping down the urge to solve any pragmatic problem. After 42 years of marriage, I am still learning how to do that… and failing routinely. But my wife absolutely respects me as I solve MEffing complex problems on a regular basis.
There is an interesting dynamic here with respect to separating or with a spouse death. The single woman will find a gap in that pragmatic problem solving capability IN ADDITION to a gap in having someone she can dump her emotions on. AI can maybe be a partial placebo for the latter gap, but not the first. A male will possibly be more free to solve pragmatic problems while not needing all the emotional support… but will generally suffer the lack of sex.
The gap in males getting sex, and the females having access to pragmatic problem solving will take significant advances in robotics to eliminate the need for human male-female relationships.
Yet another interesting and relatable comment by you, Frank, thank you. I agree with this 100%, as it mirrors my experience with my wife, and with my friends, too. I had a friend who used an expression that will require a misspelling to be "postable", but when his wife would inform him that there was a task that needed to be done that was physically difficult, mechanically technical, greasy dirty and/or just plain unpleasant, she would, in a passive tense, say "this needs to be done. Please." To which Tony might have replied; "What, do you expect me to wave my magic pennis at it?" God created the sexes to be different and complementary. AI obviously lacks the hormones to guide it, but generations of clever programming and self learning may close the gap. For myself, I don't even find women with "cosmetic" breast implants to be attractive, so robots will never be able to get me sexually interested.
It boggles the mind when one steps back and realizes how widespread mental illness appears to be. Society would be far better off if all the AI bots responded to the entreaties of the mental ill by telling them to get a real life, start taking their meds again, and seek professional help.
Ah yes, the most profound and ubiquitous gender difference that we fail to acknowledge because it is inconvenient to the ultimate goals of 3rd wave feminism. She has a thick emotional rind that has to be pierced to access the rational thinking apparatus. He has a thinner emotional rind that is more easily pierced so he can proceed effectively with problem-solving.
Her’s is a human relationship space. His is a pragmatic get things done space.
She speaks without real interest in solving any pragmatic problem, but to calm her high emotional turmoil. That is HER problem. He is not naturally tuned to that sort of thing… he can see her emotional turmoil but his pragmatic problem solving mode kicks in and in causes friction and resentment in her because “he does not listen”, “he does not understand”, “he isn’t sensitive enough”.
Now, if he goes overboard in his reflection of her emotions, she loses respect for him.
Women are complex. Men are much more simple.
However, the key for men is to learn how to do active listening while tamping down the urge to solve any pragmatic problem. After 42 years of marriage, I am still learning how to do that… and failing routinely. But my wife absolutely respects me as I solve MEffing complex problems on a regular basis.
There is an interesting dynamic here with respect to separating or with a spouse death. The single woman will find a gap in that pragmatic problem solving capability IN ADDITION to a gap in having someone she can dump her emotions on. AI can maybe be a partial placebo for the latter gap, but not the first. A male will possibly be more free to solve pragmatic problems while not needing all the emotional support… but will generally suffer the lack of sex.
The gap in males getting sex, and the females having access to pragmatic problem solving will take significant advances in robotics to eliminate the need for human male-female relationships.
Yet another interesting and relatable comment by you, Frank, thank you. I agree with this 100%, as it mirrors my experience with my wife, and with my friends, too. I had a friend who used an expression that will require a misspelling to be "postable", but when his wife would inform him that there was a task that needed to be done that was physically difficult, mechanically technical, greasy dirty and/or just plain unpleasant, she would, in a passive tense, say "this needs to be done. Please." To which Tony might have replied; "What, do you expect me to wave my magic pennis at it?" God created the sexes to be different and complementary. AI obviously lacks the hormones to guide it, but generations of clever programming and self learning may close the gap. For myself, I don't even find women with "cosmetic" breast implants to be attractive, so robots will never be able to get me sexually interested.
You can be sure that we humans will easily find a way to make a lot of trouble for ourselves with something like this.
It boggles the mind when one steps back and realizes how widespread mental illness appears to be. Society would be far better off if all the AI bots responded to the entreaties of the mental ill by telling them to get a real life, start taking their meds again, and seek professional help.