Discussion about this post

User's avatar
FLGenX's avatar

Thank you for this article. I’ve ignored a family member for days after he texted me on Sunday morning gleefully saying rain and storms were going to cancel the event. It bothered me. A lot.

He’s ex military, former defense contractor, we come from a military patriotic good family - why is he like this?? But your article helped me: He’s a sour person. He doesn’t want to change or look inward. He’s bitter and sarcastic and - while he can be very funny - it always turns MEAN. Sometimes downright nasty.

I’ve invested enough emotional energy in anyone, family or not, who gets their kicks this way. Enough.

Andy G's avatar

"On the other hand, some people are just deeply unhappy. They don’t like themselves. They’ve embraced ideas, ideologies, and ways of looking at the world that make them miserable, and they just happen to be in America.

If they moved from here to France, Japan, Dubai, or Australia, they’d be just as depressed because the real problem is them, not where they live. Even if the place they live in changes, they’re stuck with the real source of their own misery everywhere they go."

Excellent piece.

The part quoted above very consistent with this recent Mike Munger piece:

https://kidsprefercheese.substack.com/p/money-and-happiness

"Using the same Track Your Happiness dataset, they found that people are mentally disengaged from what they are currently doing roughly 47 percent of the time — and that this mind-wandering is among the single strongest predictors of unhappiness in the entire dataset, outpacing income, activity type, and most demographic variables.

This finding reframes the whole income debate. The chronically unhappy group for whom money stopped working were almost certainly not unhappy because of insufficient funds. They were unhappy for reasons internal to their own patterns of attention and thought."

12 more comments...

No posts

Ready for more?