Over the course of my life, I have been fortunate to learn an awful lot about why human beings do what they do and how it applies to people, friendships, and relationships.
I've often heard people say, "Why are you so concerned about [this moral failing]? If you needed brain surgery and the best brain surgeon in the world did [this thing], would you not want him to operate on you because of that?" To which I reply, Maybe true ... but a person who has these deep character flaws is unlikely to be the best brain surgeon in the world. Like, if I needed brain surgery and the best brain surgeon in the world was a cocaine addict, etc. But I rather doubt that a cocaine addict would ever become the best brain surgeon in the world. Or if I discovered that the best brain surgeon on the world cheated on his wife, etc. Except, if he cheats on his wife, maybe he cheated to get through medical school. If he's been lying to his wife, maybe he's been lying about the results of his past surgeries. Etc.
Wow. I have SO MUCH to impart about all of this but I can't do this here. All I can say is that this is yet one more brilliant assessment you have made on this particular subject. I was always a woman men wanted and never had any problems relating with them. Why? Because I was just me. I can talk to anyone. Unfortunately, I sure made a lot of poor choices. Should have been a gold digger! But then...you find the gold you dug turns out to be one of those of those rat turds or worse and then, as much as you love them, you have to let them go. I should write a book. But I need a pen name. My family would be horrified.
Very few people try to dig deep within and analyze their character but more and more people are doing it. This endeavour can be an eye-opener as to why one person's life is going the way it is or why their life went the way it did. Opening one's eyes early enough could save lives and change things for the better if you're an optimistic. Thank you for your insight.
RE find time on what's important: Yes. I heard a sermon once where the preacher said that people often say they don't come to church or read their Bibles or pray because "they're too busy". But, he said, you find time for what's important to you. Then he said, When was the last time you heard someone say, I've just been so buy this week, I haven't had time to eat. Sure, sometimes people are so busy that they skip lunch, but almost never does someone miss several meals in a row because they are "too busy". The preacher was talking about spiritual things, but the same principle applies to anything.
I've often heard people say, "Why are you so concerned about [this moral failing]? If you needed brain surgery and the best brain surgeon in the world did [this thing], would you not want him to operate on you because of that?" To which I reply, Maybe true ... but a person who has these deep character flaws is unlikely to be the best brain surgeon in the world. Like, if I needed brain surgery and the best brain surgeon in the world was a cocaine addict, etc. But I rather doubt that a cocaine addict would ever become the best brain surgeon in the world. Or if I discovered that the best brain surgeon on the world cheated on his wife, etc. Except, if he cheats on his wife, maybe he cheated to get through medical school. If he's been lying to his wife, maybe he's been lying about the results of his past surgeries. Etc.
Wow. I have SO MUCH to impart about all of this but I can't do this here. All I can say is that this is yet one more brilliant assessment you have made on this particular subject. I was always a woman men wanted and never had any problems relating with them. Why? Because I was just me. I can talk to anyone. Unfortunately, I sure made a lot of poor choices. Should have been a gold digger! But then...you find the gold you dug turns out to be one of those of those rat turds or worse and then, as much as you love them, you have to let them go. I should write a book. But I need a pen name. My family would be horrified.
A book featuring lots of poor choices that your family would be horrified by sounds like it has the potential to be good.
Very few people try to dig deep within and analyze their character but more and more people are doing it. This endeavour can be an eye-opener as to why one person's life is going the way it is or why their life went the way it did. Opening one's eyes early enough could save lives and change things for the better if you're an optimistic. Thank you for your insight.
RE find time on what's important: Yes. I heard a sermon once where the preacher said that people often say they don't come to church or read their Bibles or pray because "they're too busy". But, he said, you find time for what's important to you. Then he said, When was the last time you heard someone say, I've just been so buy this week, I haven't had time to eat. Sure, sometimes people are so busy that they skip lunch, but almost never does someone miss several meals in a row because they are "too busy". The preacher was talking about spiritual things, but the same principle applies to anything.