Is this a holdover from your days of writing for conservative op-ed websites? Why is everything awful in the world "sad?" Why is it never infuriating or disgusting or obnoxious or maddening? It's okay to have a temper, and to let your anger show in your writing. God knows I do. Okay, rant over.
Moving on, I don't see a good way out of this situation. We're either gonna have to place legal limits on AI or destroy it, neither of which is a viable option. So we're left to explore cultural solutions to this problem.
As I see it, here's what driving this mess: Women are humored by society into thinking it's perfectly reasonable to have a mile-long list of contradictory requirements for a man. He has to be strong, but vulnerable. He has to be fun, but grounded. He has to be spontaneous, but responsible. He has to be able to handle all his own shit without anyone else's help, but must be lost without her. He has to be six feet tall and handsome, but not care about skin care or clothes. He has to have six-pack abs, but can't be in the gym all day. He has to want only her but be able to get literally any other woman on Earth. He has to make six figures but not be a workaholic. He has to be driven to improve himself but naturally funny, charismatic, adventurous and passionate.
He must be the effortlessly-awesome main character of an 80s action movie.
Can you imagine if society let men get away with this kind of delusional thinking? She has to be five-foot-four and 120 lbs and toned, but not live on the treadmill. She has to be naturally pretty and never need makeup. She has to be kind and demure but kinky in the bedroom. She has to want six kids but never get fat after each pregnancy. She must be faithful to him while he tomcats around town because "he has needs." She must age gracefully, but accept that he can "trade up" whenever he wants.
Side note: Why is a man a failure if his business tanks or he gets passed over for promotion, but not if he's on his third wife?
Anyway, I think both sexes are increasingly turning to AI because the combination of AI and a society that refuses to condemn almost any behavior besides "being judgmental" has allowed us to collectively sink into this morass. People can get a close-enough simulated relationship from a computer that doesn't come with all kinds of baggage and unfixable problems and a general anxiety about "Is this the day she's gonna go nuts?" or "Am I gonna find out he's cheating on me today?"
So how do we fix it?
Perhaps a bit of Carrot and Stick is in order. Start mocking women for being picky and men for having AI girlfriends, but also encourage men to become the kind of man that gets women and women to not whore away their 20s. Guys, being a Nice Guy isn't a good thing, and you're not really "nice" anyway. That douchebag over there is really just being assertive. Try doing like he does. Ladies, that bad boy you think you want is in fact Bad. You're gonna have to call the fire department when he's done with you.
I'm not an angry person. I do occasionally get outraged or disgusted, but it's not an every day thing for me.
Also, yes, I think the primary (but not only) problem with dating today is that women have been conditioned to expect way, way, too much out of men. My thought at this point, with AI coming along, is we are going to need a technological fix for it because I don't think enough humans are going to breed to keep the species going long term.
There is a human psychological function to crave being wanted. I think it is biological as the human child is the most helpless for the highest percentage of its life expectancy. If you are not wanted, you die at a young age from the lack of care.
I lead a business where my sales staff has to make business relationships with bankers and brokers. In the urban areas we operate in, we have a Rolodex of "party girls". These are attractive young females working in office jobs. They get invited to dinners and events where they get a free meal and drinks just for being there to socialize with male attendees. Sometimes there is a connection that leads to romance. But most the time everyone goes home with a smile on their face from just the socialization time with a bit of flirting.
In Korea Town, the Karaoke bars provide the same utility. Pretty young girls join the groups. They get tipped.
I see all of this as not only harmless, but positive in that it satiates that psychological need of people to get some feeling wanted.
I think AI is doing the same. They are all artificial to some degree. The pretty girls are not really attracted to most of these males in attendance. But they perform as such, and that is good enough for these men.
"Sadly, we live in a world..."
Is this a holdover from your days of writing for conservative op-ed websites? Why is everything awful in the world "sad?" Why is it never infuriating or disgusting or obnoxious or maddening? It's okay to have a temper, and to let your anger show in your writing. God knows I do. Okay, rant over.
Moving on, I don't see a good way out of this situation. We're either gonna have to place legal limits on AI or destroy it, neither of which is a viable option. So we're left to explore cultural solutions to this problem.
As I see it, here's what driving this mess: Women are humored by society into thinking it's perfectly reasonable to have a mile-long list of contradictory requirements for a man. He has to be strong, but vulnerable. He has to be fun, but grounded. He has to be spontaneous, but responsible. He has to be able to handle all his own shit without anyone else's help, but must be lost without her. He has to be six feet tall and handsome, but not care about skin care or clothes. He has to have six-pack abs, but can't be in the gym all day. He has to want only her but be able to get literally any other woman on Earth. He has to make six figures but not be a workaholic. He has to be driven to improve himself but naturally funny, charismatic, adventurous and passionate.
He must be the effortlessly-awesome main character of an 80s action movie.
Can you imagine if society let men get away with this kind of delusional thinking? She has to be five-foot-four and 120 lbs and toned, but not live on the treadmill. She has to be naturally pretty and never need makeup. She has to be kind and demure but kinky in the bedroom. She has to want six kids but never get fat after each pregnancy. She must be faithful to him while he tomcats around town because "he has needs." She must age gracefully, but accept that he can "trade up" whenever he wants.
Side note: Why is a man a failure if his business tanks or he gets passed over for promotion, but not if he's on his third wife?
Anyway, I think both sexes are increasingly turning to AI because the combination of AI and a society that refuses to condemn almost any behavior besides "being judgmental" has allowed us to collectively sink into this morass. People can get a close-enough simulated relationship from a computer that doesn't come with all kinds of baggage and unfixable problems and a general anxiety about "Is this the day she's gonna go nuts?" or "Am I gonna find out he's cheating on me today?"
So how do we fix it?
Perhaps a bit of Carrot and Stick is in order. Start mocking women for being picky and men for having AI girlfriends, but also encourage men to become the kind of man that gets women and women to not whore away their 20s. Guys, being a Nice Guy isn't a good thing, and you're not really "nice" anyway. That douchebag over there is really just being assertive. Try doing like he does. Ladies, that bad boy you think you want is in fact Bad. You're gonna have to call the fire department when he's done with you.
I'm not an angry person. I do occasionally get outraged or disgusted, but it's not an every day thing for me.
Also, yes, I think the primary (but not only) problem with dating today is that women have been conditioned to expect way, way, too much out of men. My thought at this point, with AI coming along, is we are going to need a technological fix for it because I don't think enough humans are going to breed to keep the species going long term.
There is a human psychological function to crave being wanted. I think it is biological as the human child is the most helpless for the highest percentage of its life expectancy. If you are not wanted, you die at a young age from the lack of care.
I lead a business where my sales staff has to make business relationships with bankers and brokers. In the urban areas we operate in, we have a Rolodex of "party girls". These are attractive young females working in office jobs. They get invited to dinners and events where they get a free meal and drinks just for being there to socialize with male attendees. Sometimes there is a connection that leads to romance. But most the time everyone goes home with a smile on their face from just the socialization time with a bit of flirting.
In Korea Town, the Karaoke bars provide the same utility. Pretty young girls join the groups. They get tipped.
I see all of this as not only harmless, but positive in that it satiates that psychological need of people to get some feeling wanted.
I think AI is doing the same. They are all artificial to some degree. The pretty girls are not really attracted to most of these males in attendance. But they perform as such, and that is good enough for these men.