Is Three Years Too Long to Grieve?

Have you ever heard of “love languages?” Gary Chapman came up with them in 1992, and they were a revolutionary concept in relationships. The idea behind them is that different people prefer to be loved in different ways.

There are words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and receiving gifts. Granted, most of us enjoy experiencing love in all of these ways to some extent, but there are usually some that we like better than others.

This can be very important in a relationship because if you hang on to your boyfriend all the time because YOU enjoy physical touch but never give him any compliments because that doesn’t matter to you, he may not feel all that appreciated because he cares most about words of affirmation. On the other hand, you may be giving your girl flowers, and she seems indifferent to it, because she’s all about quality time, and you’ve been super busy the last couple of weeks and have barely seen her.

Interesting, right?

Well, grief is a little li…