Excellent essay, John, brave and full of *truth that must not be spoken*. I enjoyed your Brass Pills website because it presented exactly these kinds of non-P.C. truths. I went to law school, and I saw how the pendulum swung in divorce property settlements after "no fault" divorce laws became the norm. Trading up, or "changing horses" mid-stream, became more common for both parties, and possession of the kids became the bargaining chip. Tough to watch, and it scared me away from having kids until it was too late for me.
I'll be 60 this April. I grew up in the 1960's and '70's, and while this article is right, I was a young lady at a time when males my age were into the then fashionable women having careers outside the home. I WANTED to be a homemaker but the guys I knew actually sneered at the concept. They also sneered at God and expected free sex. I'm certain that there were "old fashioned" guys out there who would have made great husbands and fathers, but most of us (if any) could not read minds. The one's I knew were good men were already married. I'm afraid that it's even more difficult for young people now-a-days when "hooking up" with somebody who's not your spouse, sexualizing children and able-bodied people living on welfare is now the norm.
If I were an invading general seeking to conquer and take over a foreign land -- and were sufficiently patient -- I'd infect the population with Feminism. It's far and away the most devastatingly destructive force on any civilization.
Oct 13, 2023·edited Oct 13, 2023Liked by John Hawkins
In the bad old days, a man worked and earned the money, and a woman stayed home and took care of the home. Today, most women also work to earn money. And so they say that it's only fair that the man do half of the housework.
Except ... they don't demand that he do half the work necessary to maintain the house to HIS standards. That is, half the work he did when he was single. They demand he do half the work necessary to maintain the house to HER standards, which is often much more than he had to do when he was single.
When most women stayed home to take care of the house, they could devote full time to the job. Say 40 hours a week. Even though she's working and can't devote that kind of time, she still wants the same result. So she expects him to work 20 hours a week on housework. When he was single, maybe he spent 5 or 10 hours a week. So she's demanding he do AT LEAST twice as much work as he did when single. Many men ask, What did I gain by being married? I don't now have someone to split the work. I now have someone who demands I do more work than I did when I was single. To get results that I just don't care about. Do I care that all the throw pillows on the couch are neatly arranged? No. Do I care that the bed is made every day? No. Do I care that the house is vacuumed and dusted twice a week instead of once a month? No. Etc.
The last thing most women want is a man who wants to live off her income. Even women with high-paying careers routinely want a man with an even higher-paying career. I have never, ever heard a woman say, "I make good money, so I don't care if my husband works or not, we don't need it." (Are there women who think that way? Maybe a few somewhere. But they're very rare and I've never met one.) Indeed, I've occasionally come across stories of rich women who pretend to be poor because they want a man who wants her for something other than her money.
Men don't care if a woman makes big money. It's worth zero points. And women want it that way.
That said, having a high-paying career often comes with side effects that are undesirable to a man. Like she doesn't have time for him because she's too busy with her job. She's used to giving orders at work so she comes home and orders him around. Etc. Thus, a woman having a "good career" can IN EFFECT be a negative to a man.
Kevin Samuels has a YouTube channel where anyone can actually see how modern women prove your point about way overestimating their "value" in the relationship/marriage game. I'm now 70, and would NEVER, EVER consider marriage nowadays if I was younger.
Excellent essay, John, brave and full of *truth that must not be spoken*. I enjoyed your Brass Pills website because it presented exactly these kinds of non-P.C. truths. I went to law school, and I saw how the pendulum swung in divorce property settlements after "no fault" divorce laws became the norm. Trading up, or "changing horses" mid-stream, became more common for both parties, and possession of the kids became the bargaining chip. Tough to watch, and it scared me away from having kids until it was too late for me.
I'll be 60 this April. I grew up in the 1960's and '70's, and while this article is right, I was a young lady at a time when males my age were into the then fashionable women having careers outside the home. I WANTED to be a homemaker but the guys I knew actually sneered at the concept. They also sneered at God and expected free sex. I'm certain that there were "old fashioned" guys out there who would have made great husbands and fathers, but most of us (if any) could not read minds. The one's I knew were good men were already married. I'm afraid that it's even more difficult for young people now-a-days when "hooking up" with somebody who's not your spouse, sexualizing children and able-bodied people living on welfare is now the norm.
If I were an invading general seeking to conquer and take over a foreign land -- and were sufficiently patient -- I'd infect the population with Feminism. It's far and away the most devastatingly destructive force on any civilization.
In the bad old days, a man worked and earned the money, and a woman stayed home and took care of the home. Today, most women also work to earn money. And so they say that it's only fair that the man do half of the housework.
Except ... they don't demand that he do half the work necessary to maintain the house to HIS standards. That is, half the work he did when he was single. They demand he do half the work necessary to maintain the house to HER standards, which is often much more than he had to do when he was single.
When most women stayed home to take care of the house, they could devote full time to the job. Say 40 hours a week. Even though she's working and can't devote that kind of time, she still wants the same result. So she expects him to work 20 hours a week on housework. When he was single, maybe he spent 5 or 10 hours a week. So she's demanding he do AT LEAST twice as much work as he did when single. Many men ask, What did I gain by being married? I don't now have someone to split the work. I now have someone who demands I do more work than I did when I was single. To get results that I just don't care about. Do I care that all the throw pillows on the couch are neatly arranged? No. Do I care that the bed is made every day? No. Do I care that the house is vacuumed and dusted twice a week instead of once a month? No. Etc.
Article is pretty spot on......
The last thing most women want is a man who wants to live off her income. Even women with high-paying careers routinely want a man with an even higher-paying career. I have never, ever heard a woman say, "I make good money, so I don't care if my husband works or not, we don't need it." (Are there women who think that way? Maybe a few somewhere. But they're very rare and I've never met one.) Indeed, I've occasionally come across stories of rich women who pretend to be poor because they want a man who wants her for something other than her money.
Men don't care if a woman makes big money. It's worth zero points. And women want it that way.
That said, having a high-paying career often comes with side effects that are undesirable to a man. Like she doesn't have time for him because she's too busy with her job. She's used to giving orders at work so she comes home and orders him around. Etc. Thus, a woman having a "good career" can IN EFFECT be a negative to a man.
Kevin Samuels has a YouTube channel where anyone can actually see how modern women prove your point about way overestimating their "value" in the relationship/marriage game. I'm now 70, and would NEVER, EVER consider marriage nowadays if I was younger.